Online Couple Counsellor

My name is Kay Doherty and I am a fully qualified couple counsellor at ‘Relationship Counselling Kent’. I have a Higher Diploma in Relationship Counselling and an Externship in ‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’. I am also a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).

My specialist area is relationship counselling, offering counselling to both heterosexual and same sex individuals and couples. I feel alive when new couples come with their individual issues, because each couple’s situation is so different. Working alongside couples as they develop a more secure base and a deeper connection with each other is extremely rewarding.

What is Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was founded in Canada by Dr. Sue Johnson and is now practised worldwide. It provides therapists with researched based tools that will enable a couple to feel connected and safe, through secure attachment. EFT asserts that relationship problems occur when couples have experienced emotional disconnection with their partner – which, in turn leads to struggles in the relationship. These struggles can develop into negative cycles which are difficult to break. EFT will support you to get past these cycles, re-connect and build a secure relationship bond together. EFT can also be used to address individual issues.

How an online couple counsellor can help you

During our first session I will I explain how online relationship therapy works. I will also talk about confidentiality and my method of storing files/notes etc answering any questions you might have. This will also be your opportunity to tell me about the issues that you each feel need addressing – from both perspectives. Then together, we will discuss a plan going forward.

As a ‘Person Centered’ counsellor I believe each individual knows exactly what is best for them, on an individual level and within the relationship. Then, with the proper support, I will help you find the ability to heal yourselves. I consider myself to be non-judgemental and accept people for who they are and how they feel. I understand the need for empathy and will take the time to get to know where you both are in the relationship. By allowing you both the time and space to listen and really ‘hear’ each other will bring great insight into the relationship.

‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’ has equipped me with the skills to assist you in exploring any recurring, negative patterns in your relationship. I will support you in learning new patterns of communicating and help you achieve a healthy, secure bond.

The process of change during our relationship counselling sessions can be transforming; and it will enable you to reach a place where you really ‘get’ each other. Moving your relationship forward more positively in the way you have chosen to do so.

After the couple therapy ends

I will have helped you develop the skills required to be aware and recognise how a particular behaviour might lead to you slipping back into the negative cycle again. This will allow you the negative cycle into positive interactions. You will be able to fully understand each other and feel re connected again. The negative cycle will be replaced with love, understanding and security.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework. I regularly partake in professional development, have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you are looking for an online couple counsellor and would like to make an appointment to see Kay. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Booking Request

Why use us?

Experienced

Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.

Qualified

BSC (hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
PGCert Psychotherapy

Professional

We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.

Convenient Locations

Ashford
Bexley
Birchington
Bromley
Canterbury
Dartford
Gravesend
Herne Bay
Maidstone
Rochester
Sevenoaks
Tonbridge
Whitstable

Reviews

Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.

John Wood and Heather townsend
Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.

EP & WP
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.

Jacqueline B
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.

Nik Edwards
Tim Gilbert
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change. Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .

Clive and Julie
Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "

Anonymous
Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"

J & P
Elaine Brown
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"

H & S
Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again" Request an appointment

Scott and Sue – Great Chart
Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Hakki – Bromley
Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))" Request an appointment

Rosalyn and Patrick
Tunbridge Wells
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!" Request an appointment

Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship" Request an appointment

Steve M
Rochester
Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much" Request an appointment

Byron & Claire – Whitstable
Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time" Request an appointment

Tracey B & Tom
Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Donahue Folkestone
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever" Request an appointment

Hayley and John
Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel" Request an appointment

Paul & Sue
Folkestone, Kent

Why use us?

Experienced

Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.

Qualified

BSC (hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
PGCert Psychotherapy

Professional

We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.

Convenient Locations

Ashford
Bexley
Birchington
Bromley
Canterbury
Dartford
Gravesend
Herne Bay
Maidstone
Rochester
Sevenoaks
Tonbridge
Whitstable

Reviews

Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.

John Wood and Heather townsend
Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.

EP & WP
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.

Jacqueline B
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.

Nik Edwards
Tim Gilbert
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change. Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .

Clive and Julie
Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "

Anonymous
Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"

J & P
Elaine Brown
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"

H & S
Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again" Request an appointment

Scott and Sue – Great Chart
Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Hakki – Bromley
Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))" Request an appointment

Rosalyn and Patrick
Tunbridge Wells
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!" Request an appointment

Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship" Request an appointment

Steve M
Rochester
Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much" Request an appointment

Byron & Claire – Whitstable
Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time" Request an appointment

Tracey B & Tom
Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Donahue Folkestone
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever" Request an appointment

Hayley and John
Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel" Request an appointment

Paul & Sue
Folkestone, Kent

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How an online couple counsellor can help you

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Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester

Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable

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