For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change.
Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues.
After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time.
He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .
Clive and Julie
“We can’t thank you enough Trish. We don’t know how you did it but you always gave us something to think about. We understand so much more about each other. We are closer now that we have been in the 25 years we have been together. We will definitely encourage other couples’ to have counselling”
“Hi Sian, we just wanted to thank you from the bottom of our hearts! Things have never been so good for us!”
As you know, when we booked to see you we were on the verge of splitting up and Brian didn’t want to have counselling because neither of us could see a way forward. And as much as the sessions were really difficult to start (in the nicest possible way!!) You were so kind and understanding whilst at the same time encouraging us to both be really honest. You were very honest with us both also by pointing out what we needed to take responsibility for individually if we wanted things to get better”
“We both feel it’s a bit scary not having our weekly sessions with you but hopefully we will be OK now but we know where you are! Thanks again x
Brian and Sophie (please don’t put our surnames)
“Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. ”
“Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected”
“Hi Sian, you asked us if we would mind writing down what we felt the benefits of relationship counselling are so you can share that to help other people. We both thought long and hard about it and we are not sure we can answer that in a generic format because we feel it only worked for us because of you (sorry if that’s a bit creepy but it’s true!)”
“From the moment we met you, you put us at ease. You had a way of making us open up and tell you things we had never told each other let alone anyone else! You helped us understand each other and ourselves and you never made us feel judged or uncomfortable and as I said to you on the phone last week now we have finished our sessions we will miss you in a strange sort of way. Thanks again for everything”
“We didn’t think we would be sat here together having enjoyed a family Christmas, when this time last year we felt we were at the end. Thank You for helping us find a way forward that suited us, and for your knowledge and understanding. We now are looking forward rather than dreading the future”
“So my husband and I were in the process of separating and we were able to book an immediate session with Jo for counselling. At the time we were both not communicating and had completely shut down emotionally, with no way forward.
In that session Jo managed to completely change our lives. She discussed our history, our upbringing and our own values and beliefs, things we’d never even considered would contribute to a relationship. Sometimes you need someone to think outside the box. You can tell she is a people person and is very normal, it was easy to chat to her and tell her all our personal issues within minutes (and we are both introverted quiet people, so not an easy task).
There were no sides taken, no opinion offered. Thank you Jo, you have saved our marriage and given us the tools to be happier in the future”
“Hello my name is Brian, I don’t know your name but if your reading this I do at least know a little about you. I needed help and you presumably feel that you do as well.
It’s very difficult to ask for help, especially from a total stranger.
We all think we can deal with whatever life throws at us,unfortunately some of us find we can’t. I waited some considerable time before I plucked up the courage to contact Sian, don’t you do that, grab the moment and you won’t regret it!
My first appointment I nearly cancelled. I am so glad I didn’t because I couldn’t wait for the next one. Sian is open, friendly, engaging, non judgemental and very good at what she does.
After six sessions I feel that with Sian’s understanding and the tools she has given me to look at situations in life that we all experience I am more able to deal with them and move on.
I can say in all honesty that I will miss our meetings!
I do know who to contact if I feel in need of a confidential chat
Sian, thank you for all your help!!!”
“Although my wife was not comfortable discussing our marital problems with a counsellor herself, Jo really helped me understand how to approach the issues, and gave us a good foundation/plan to build upon.
They say the first step is to talk about the problems, and talking with Jo really helped!. Was the first time (aged 48) I have had any kind of counselling, which filled me with fear, but within a couple of minutes of the Zoom meeting Jo put my mind at rest.”
“Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we’ve learnt will be invaluable taking froward”
“We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it’s linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)”
“We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again”
“We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn’t believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other’s perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment
I went to see Allie at Relationship Counselling West Malling when I was struggling to know what to do and was very confused. I was in the middle of having an affair and thinking about leaving my wife and child. I couldn’t make sense of what I was feeling or which way to turn.
Allie worked slowly with me to assess what was truly making me happy and the steps to cope with everyday life. Then we explored the bigger issues which slowly but surely led me to a much deeper understanding of myself.
My relationship with my wife has vastly improved. We are now able to communicate more openly and can provide each other with space, companionship and appropriate support when needed. I have regained my enjoyment in our journey of building a life and family together.
I am now happier than I have ever been and feel more confident to move forward with my life with much stronger ability to cope with anything life throws at me in the future.
I’ll never be able to thank you enough. Request an appointment
“We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect”
“Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas” Request an appointment
“Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address”
“Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person’s point of view” Request an appointment
“My wife and I decided to seek Marriage Counselling Bexley with Louise after having experienced a few communication challenges. We have been married just under 2 years and really wanted to nip these issues in the bud”
“The counselling was a real revelation. The whole experience was enlightening and we both found it to be very useful. Louise had a really experienced and specialised way in helping us to approach and deal with our challenges well. It certainly wasn’t about blame or who was right or wrong, but it helped us understand how the other was feeling and how they processed thoughts”
“We had just 4 or 5 sessions and are now looking forward to a long, happy and fulfilled marriage with much-improved communication skills. Thank you Louise! ”
“The Irish” (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It’s been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won’t be back!! :))”
“Out of the blue my wife told me that she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. This came as a complete shock to me. I had known that things weren’t great between us but I didn’t know it had got that bad. I persuaded her to go to a marriage guidance but to be honest, it was a pretty awful experience. It was dark and depressing the counsellor didn’t appear to be really listening to us and seemed to take sides so we both ended up feeling worse than ever”
“We stopped going and things went from bad to worse and looked like they were heading for divorce, but I was determined not to give up. I found Relationship Counselling Kent website on Google and made an appointment to see Alison at relationship counselling Maidstone and it was clear that her approach was completely different other counsellors. I called her straight away and left a message and she called me back that same day. We only spoke for 10 minutes but during that time she gave me more comfort and confidence in the fact that we could sort our marriage problems out, if ,we were both committed to doing so. Alison made me feel better in 10 minutes than the previous counsellor had done over several hours”
“Alison seemed to intuitively understand what the problems were and what could be done about it and she went out of her way to book me in quickly due to the fact we were at crisis point”
“During our first session Alison challenged us both around the thinking and behaviour that had led to us to be at this point. and helped us understand where as individuals we had gone wrong and how we could change things to make things work. Alison was kind and understanding but she also continually challenged and pushed us forward. We still have further sessions with her but she has already worked miracles for us. Day by day our relationship is getting better and better when a short time ago I was convinced it was over. I cannot thank Alison enough for saving my marriage and prevent me from losing my family”
“We procrastinated about going for relationship counselling for around 2 years. I made 3 appointments then cancelled them trying to pretend the problems were manageable and we didn’t need help. Things finally came to a head and we had no choice; either go for help or split up. My husband didn’t want to so it felt like I was dragging him along but plucking up the courage was the best thing we ever did and we wish we had done it five years ago. A
After only 2 appointments with Sabine at couple Counselling Canterbury it started to get better and then continued to grow each session after that. With our new communication skills and understanding of each other I feel like we are back in love again! I would tell anyone not to be scared or embarrassed and it is worth every penny”
“My wife point blank refused to seek help for our problems with marriage counselling because she saw this as a failure she didn’t want to admit to. Neither of us wanted to separate but we wanted to feel happy again. But as much as I tried to persuade my wife to go to see Sj at marriage counselling Gravesend she wouldn’t. When I called Sj to ask her advice it was actually her who suggested that perhaps my wife might feel more comfortable if we had a session at our home.
Although my wife was still hesitant she felt much more comfortable with this idea and it’s helped us greatly. We didn’t even realised how stale things were and how mundane our lives had become. Sj inspired us with new vigour and understanding and we are both happier now and actually looking forward to our retirement together rather than dreading it”
“It’s been good and it’s been bad………………… but knowing what we know now …. we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!”
“Highly recommend – I contacted Relationship Counselling Kent for an appoinment with Elaine at Couples Counselling Kent because I was concerned that my reaction to the small irritating things my partner was doing was getting out of hand. I was anxious, angry and upset on a regular basis. I tried to blame him for a while but I started to realise it was me and not him. I saw Elaine for a few months, once a week, and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was.
This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, I’m more in control of my emotions, and much happier in my relationship. Elaine was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me when I started to feel better”
“As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife’s affair. Unfortunately I haven’t been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn’t have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I’m hoping one day I will see some good in what’s happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship”
“Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much”
“We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time”
“Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!”
“When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems”
“Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever”
“I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel”