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Sandie Peters

Sevenoaks Practice

Couple Counselling Sevenoaks

 

Hello, my name is Sandie Peters and I am a fully qualified Couple Counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Sevenoaks.

I hold a Diploma in ‘Relationship Counselling’ and I am a certified ’Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist’ (EFT) . Along with being a member of the ‘International Centre of Emotionally Focused Therapy’ (ICEEFT)

As an EFT Therapist I will work in collaboration with you as individuals, as well as the relationship as an entity in its own right.  Together, we willl gain insight and understanding into any unhelpful patterns of behaviour that may have developed. We will then work together to create a stronger and more satisfying bond between you. I will also help you develop the relevant tools to help you deal conflict more effectively in future.

I will tailor the sessions for your specific need because every individual and relationship are different. If you are unsure as to would like the outcome to be at this stage, that’s okay. We will work together to help you find clarity

Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was founded in Canada by Dr. Sue Johnson and is now practised worldwide.  It provides therapists with researched based tools that will enable a couple to feel connected and safe, through secure attachment.  EFT asserts that relationship problems occur when couples have experienced emotional disconnection with their partner – which, in turn leads to struggles in the relationship. These struggles can develop into negative cycles which are difficult to break.  EFT will support you to get past these cycles, re-connect and build a secure relationship bond together. EFT can also be used to address individual issues.

For some people, it can be a difficult to reach out for professional relationship support. Some might see it as if they have failed in some way. However, I firmly believe the opposite is true.  In my view, it shows great courage to admit that things are difficult in your relationship at the moment. It also demonstrates a commitment to your partner because you are showing that, they and the relationship, are of the upmost importance to you.

I am passionate about working in partnership with any couple who are experiencing relationship problems. My work is diverse and my experience spans across work with couples of all ages, genders, sexual orientation or different cultural identities. My aim is to bring about a lasting and satisfying change for both people.

Relationship Counselling is highly effective in addressing underlying issues and can have a profoundly, positive impact on the wellbeing of both the couple and the individuals concerned. Although it may not always be easy to navigate, the end result will be beneficial.

My approach at couple counselling sevenoaks

At the start of our first session, I will ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy and explain how we will work together. In sessions two and three I usually see each member of the couple individually to help us both understand how their past relationships and family background may have shaped their emotional responses to their partner and the challenges the relationship throws up. In session four we start the work of identifying the negative cycle and ways of communicating that might be getting in the way of the secure couple bond. of Whether you would like help to make the relationship work better.

Everybody’s relationship undergoes pressure at some point. This might be from everyday life stresses. Or through specific issues, such as finance, ill health, sex, parenting or infidelity. It may well be because of the challenges that come with different life stages. You may want to help your relationship work better, deal with a specific issue that has arisen, be considering separation.

No matter where you are I consider myself to be non-judgemental and accept people for who they are and how they feel. I understand the need for empathy and will take the time to get to know where you both are in the relationship. By allowing you both the time and space to listen and really ‘hear’ each other will bring great insight into the relationship.

Ethical Standards

Finally, I subscribe to and work within the ‘International Centre of Emotionally Focused Therapy’ (ICEEFT) philosophy and principles. I also abide by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Therapy) Ethical Guidelines. I undertake regular professional development and supervision. As well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Sandie at Relationship Counselling Sevenoaks or Online. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Link – Request an appointment

 

Dolores Fernandez

Gravesend Practice

Marriage Counselling Gravesend

 

Hello, my name is Dolores and I am a fully qualified couples counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Gravesend. I have a diploma in ‘’Integrative Counselling’ and I’m trained in ‘Couples Dynamics’. I’m accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and have over 10 years’ experience.

About marriage counselling

Perhaps you are finding it difficult to accept each other for who you are. Or maybe, when disagreements arise, you are communicating with negativity and contempt rather than with respect and understanding. Alternatively, you might feel the decision-making, power and influence in the relationship is one sided.

In my experience, it is so important that relationships are managed and nurtured ongoing. Because if not, they can fall by the wayside. Problems tend to occur in relationships when there is a lack of understanding through poor communication. This can then lead to feelings of hurt, disappointment and inadequacy, resulting in resentment building up if not discussed effectively. These unresolved recurring situations or patterns in relating to one another’s feelings can often lead to anger, depression and/or anxiety.

As a relationship counsellor my focus is always on your relationship. Firstly, by trying to understand the problem/s you are facing and also your desired outcome through having therapy. That is if you know of course. Sometimes couples are unsure as to what they want to achieve when they first start marriage counselling. Perhaps you need help to make your relationship work better than it currently is or perhaps you would like help to separate in an amicable way. Maybe you might want different things or you are unsure. That’s okay, we will work together to help you find clarity to enable you to move forward more positively.

My approach to marriage counselling

During our sessions I will ensure the dynamic between you is balanced, which means you will both have the opportunity to talk and to be heard. I will support your expression and your communication. My role is also to help you listen and try and understand your partners perspective, thoughts and feelings.

Relationships work better when both people feel safe and comfortable enough to share their feelings. Additionally, couples feel closer when they know they can trust and rely on each other. I will help you achieve this if that is what you want.

My approach to couple therapy is solution focused. This means, I will help you bring about change by constructing solutions rather than focusing on the problems. I will gently encourage you to look at yourselves as individuals and the role you play in the relationship. By having an un-biased third party in the room can help take some of the emotion out the situation, so you are able to talk, listen and see things more clearly.

Where necessary I will provide support in how to create healthy boundaries in your relationship. Help with problems with intimacy or sexual compatibility. Perhaps you are looking for help following infidelity, parenting or co-parenting. No problem is too big or too small

Ethical Standards

My work is diverse and I’m experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships.

I subscribe to and work within the BACP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I have monthly supervision and regularly undertake professional development

If you would like to make an appointment to see Dolores for marriage counselling then please contact us today. Request an appointment

 

Maria Priddey

Sittingbourne Practice

Relationship Counselling Sittingbourne

 

My Name is Maria Priddey and I am a fully qualified and an experienced Couple Counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Sittingbourne practice.  I have a Level 4 Diploma in ‘Therapeutic Counselling’ and I am registered with the  BACP (British Association Counsellors & Psychotherapists) so therefore abide by their code of ethics.

My core approach to therapy is “Person Centred”. Which emphasis the belief that every person has the capacity  to fulfil his or her own potential. I also practice the ‘integrative’ approach, which  means I draw upon different theoretical approaches to allow me to tailor my work to suit each couple’s unique situation.

I understand it can be difficult to take the decision to reach out for help with your relationship. However, rest assured, I will be there to support you both, every step of the way.

At the beginning of our first session, I will ask you what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether  you are hoping to make your relationship work better than it currently is or perhaps you would like me to help you separate more amicably. At this point, you might feel unsure or you  might have different answers and that is okay, we will work together to help you find clarity.

My approach to relationship therapy

I offer a safe, confidential space in order for you both to work through the problems in your relationship. Helping uou find answers to any questions you may have by encouraging you to  look  at your feelings. I will support you in finding a greater understanding of yourself as an individual as well as within your relationship. You will be empowered to explore change and  in turn find a way of moving forward, in whichever way you choose.

Each session will be guided by you. Which means you will have complete autonomy to decide what we discuss. You will be in control of when you are ready to talk about parts of you and your relationship. Although I will be there to guide the sessions and help you both ‘really’ lisen to each other’s points of view. You don’t necessarily have to like, or agree, with each other’s  perspectives. However, by understanding them, goes a  long way in removing any hurt, anger or resentment which may have built up over the years. It is your opportunity to talk and to be heard

I consider myself warm, down to earth and non-judgemental. Which will hopefully enable you both to feel comfortable enough to talk freely, openly and honestly with me. I will ensure you feel valued and comfortable during our sessions, helping you have a better understanding of each other. So you are able to  work together to achieve a better way of being.

Ethical Standards

I am a member of the BACP, working within their ethical framework.  I also attend monthly clinical supervision and further training in specific areas as required. My professional indemnity/public liability insurance is always up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Maria for Relationship Counselling Sittingbourne. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today.  Click – Request an appointment

 

Tim Gilbert

Tunbridge Wells Practice

Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells

 

Hello there. My name is Tim Gilbert and I am based at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells. I have been a couples, individual and family counsellor for over 8 years. I hold a Diploma in Relationship Counselling and a BSc (Hons) in Psychology. I’m also BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) registered.

Problems in relationships can be caused by a variety of different reasons. Therefore, in order for you to get the most out of the therapy, I will use an ‘integrative approach’. This will be from either a Systemic or Psychodynamic perspective. This means, I will explore what is happening ‘now’ in the couple relationship and develop an understanding of how our upbringing and past experiences define our relationships.

As individuals we are affected by our internal makeup and by external influences. For example, our upbringing, social experiences and how these affect our emotions, feelings and beliefs. Therefore, approaches to therapy are influenced by these two models in terms of what has happened in the past and what is going on in the present to yourself and as a couple.

My approach to relationship therapy

I understand that taking the decision to come to relationship therapy might feel quite daunting. So, with this in mind, my approach is both empathetic and supportive. I will help you quickly feel at ease, listened to and most importantly understood. During the relationship counselling process, we will explore the problems at hand in order to develop a holistic and comprehensive understanding of your unique situation.

Relationship counselling usually employs a process of change. Therefore, it’s important that you both feel valued and respected whilst working through what that change may look like in your scenario. I will encourage you to determine your desired outcome. Then, through the building of bridges, help you develop positive communication paths so you are able to move forward. This process will not only improve self- esteem, it will also allow respective voices to be heard.

Perhaps you are worried that there is a possibility of separation or maybe there are disputes within the family unit. My easy-going approach will enable you to be heard and empowered in order to reach a more positive resolution going forward.

My experience

During our work together at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells I will help you gain a better understanding of each other’s perspectives. This will be achieved through a calm, non-accusatory, therapeutic process. A process where you will both have a voice and be able to work through your relationship issues together for a sustainable outcome.

I work diversely and have experience working with same gender relationships. mixed cultures, families and friendships.

Ethical standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP code of ethics and ethical framework. I undertake regular professional development to maintain a high level of knowledge and practice and regular supervision. My professional indemnity insurance is up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Tim at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Please contact him via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment with Tim

 

 

Gill Syred

Gillingham Practice

Couple Counselling Gillingham

 

Hello my name is Gill Syred and I am a fully qualified ‘Integrative Therapist’ and Couple Counsellor. I am based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Gillingham practice. I have a BSC (hons) in Social Science and a Diploma in ‘Therapeutic Counselling’ and a ‘Diploma in Clinical Supervision’. Which means I supervise other therapists so they are able to do their job more competently.

I’m a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling Psychotherapists). Working in an ‘integrative’ way means I use different theoretical concepts, depending on a couple’s particular situation. That’s because I understand that couple is unique and one size certainly doesn’t fit all. Alongside being a Relationship Counsellor I am also trained in ‘Cognitive Behavioural Therapy’ (CBT) ‘Trauma therapy’ and ‘CATT therapy’ (Children’s Accelerated Trauma Technique).

About relationship counselling

Sometimes couples find the idea of seeking couple therapy to be quite daunting. However, in my experience, even though it might be difficult at first, couples always feel better for talking to a professional relationship counsellor. Because, having a third party in the room, helps to take some of the emotion out of the situation so you are able to see things more clearly.

Often, one or both partners try and ignore the problems in their relationship in the hope that they go away – this doesn’t happen. In fact, when things get pushed under the carpet it often leads to deep seated resentment on both sides. It is so important for couples to be able to openly and honestly communicate with each other in order to have a healthy relationship.

Active listening is a skill that can get lost in our busy lives. However, it is a skill that is vital for a happy relationship. Active listening is achieved through really ‘hearing’ and trying to understand to what our partner has to say. Along with learning how to discuss our own thoughts and feelings more openly. Relationship therapy will help you acheive that.

My approach to couple counselling

At the beginning of our first session, I will ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether you are hoping to make your relationship work better than it is currently is or whether you would like help in separating more amicably. At this point, you might feel unsure and that is okay, we will work together to help you find clarity.

I will provide you with a safe, supportive and non-judgemental space to help you identify and work through the difficulties you are experiencing.  It could be that your relationship lacks intimacy or the same arguments keep happening over and over. Perhaps you feel stuck, going around and around in circles but never getting anywhere. Maybe one of you has been unfaithful and you are looking for help to work through this.

When you have a neutral space to talk it will enable me the opportunity to feedback the dynamics I observe within the session. This will help you make sense of what is going on. It is certainly not about me attributing blame to either of you. It’s about me helping you understand the role you both are playing which may be causing problems in the relationship. It’s also about me helping you accept that you don’t always have to see eye to eye on everything.

I will help you both to be more patient, respectful and understanding of each other’s experiences  so you are able to move forward more positively – in whichever way you choose.

Moving forwards

It is also important that I get to know both of you on a personal level. Because maybe one or both of you have issues from your past that you may want to discuss individually.

If you decide you wish to separate I will help guide you through these difficult emotions. Losing, not only the relationship but someone you once loved or maybe still do love. Along with the loss of the future once planned, can feel overwhelming. However, therapy can help you come to terms with loss and help you learn to accept it. It will also help you build upon your strengths so you can find a way forward and a new beginning.

If you would like to make an appointment with Gill at Couple Counselling Gillingham. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

Jacquie Young

Ramsgate Practice

Relationship Counselling Ramsgate

 

Hello, my name is Jacquie Young and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained couple therapist with over 15 years experience in relationship counselling. I hold an Advanced Diploma in Couple Counselling.

I have considerable experience working with same gender relationships, mixed cultures, blended families and separated couples. Along with being qualified to work with children and young people.

My Background

My careeer has been varied, although always centred around supporting people, in a wide a range environments. I worked as a lecturer in a large multi-cultural college in East London for around 14 years. Prior to that I worked in local government focusing on issues such as homelessness, housing policy and improving customer satisfaction.

I also have vast experience working in the voluntary sector for a wide range of independent and charities. Supporting people from diverse backgrounds and cultures. This includes mental health support, domestic violence and reparative justice. I’m also experienced in working with people with autism and and their familie supporting them through challenging times.

Whist at Relate I also worked in conjunction with CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.). Supporting separating and divorcing parents and using my expertise as a qualified child counsellor to focus on the children’s needs. This aided the reaching of agreements to help them make shared plans to move forward.

How relationship counselling can help

Whatever your reasons for seeking  relationship counselling, I recognise that it can take courage. Asking someboy else for help can feel difficult. Therefore, I am still humbled when people take the decision to do so. However, this is the first step in working through any negative emotions and making the required changes to break a cycle of potentially unhelpful behaviours that might not be serving you well.

So, if you or your relationship is going through a difficult time or perhaps has reached crisis point,  it would be helpful for us to talk. Perhaps there is an ongoing situation where the the same arguments keep repeating again and again. Or maybe you feel like you have reached a point where you just can’t live like this anymore.

Over the years so many people have told me that they wish they had made the decision to come to counselling earlier. They often express frustration that they thought they could sort it themselves and  ‘just bumbled along’ and didn’t take the time to discover whether it was possible to make positive change. . People often tell me that they are amazed at the impact of being listened to and just having another person looking in at their relationship and offering a different perspective on it.

How I can help

I firmly believe, whatever your reason for attending relationship counselling. By having an honest look at your relationship will only be of benefit. Together, we will explore how you communciate and gain an understanding of  your individual needs and expectations are in a  warm, supportive, non-judgemental environment.

People tell me that I make them feel at ease very quickly, even when one partner is reluctant to attend. Feedback has been that they found it easy to open up and be honest about what’s going on for them. I  won’t just  sit back waiting for you to talk. I will actively participate, it is important that we all worki together to discover what’s going on. This might mean unpicking repetitive arguments to identify where behavior patterns come, This is so we are able to understand the changes required which will be more helpful for you and your relationship.

I use a variety of different theoretical approaches and will quickly find out what will be most helpful for your unique situation.  If you decide, for whatever reason, that I am not the right therapist for you, I  will be more than happy to help you explore alternatives.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I undertake regular professional development alongside  regular clinical supervision and peer supervision groups. My professional indemnity insurance is up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Jacquie for relationship counselling. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today Request an appointment

Daniella Smith

Aylesford Practice

Couples Counsellor Aylesford

 

Hello, my name is Daniella and I am an experienced Couple Counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Aylesford practice. I’m fully qualified and hold a level 5 Professional Diploman in ‘Psychotherapeutic Therapy’.  I am also accredited by the NCS (National Counselling Society) therefore bound by their professional and ethical standards.

I have been in private practice for a number of years, providing therapy for both couples and individuals. Alongside working as an NHS Counsellor and Wellbeing Coach.

About relationships

We all need help at certain times in our lives. However, admitting to needing help with our relationships is something people often find difficult and view as a ‘failure’. This is often because they believe that they ‘should’ be able to sort things out for themselves. However, asking for professional relationship help actually shows great strength, not weakness. In my experience, couples always report that they wish they had sought relationship help much sooner.

Human beings are complex and we all have different emotional needs. Having our needs met is important in order for us to feel safe and content within relationships. However, when our relationship runs in to difficulty it can have a great impact on our mental health and wellbeing.

Perhaps your relationship has experienced a shift and things aren’t working as well as they used to be. Or maybe communication between you has diminished or there are changes in your sex life. Sometimes couples are unsure as to when and why the problems in their relationship began but it may have gone on for a number of years.

Life experiences such as bereavement, infidelity, the loss of job or health problems can have a negative impact on our relationships, all of which can leave you feeling lonely, undesirable, insecure and lost. The relationship then can become a battle-ground of stored-up resentment and unkind words.

Maybe you feel your relationship would benefit from you both being able to talk openly, ideally without filtering your feelings about the other person. It can be incredibly empowering to be heard and accepted within our closest relationships.

My approach to couple counselling

I believe we would all benefit from knowing we have a “safe space” to speak to somebody who is unbiased, supportive and understanding. My aim is to ensure that my genuine down-to-earth approach will enable you both to feel comfortable enough to open about what is going on for you in your relationship.

I will not take sides or pass judgement or attribute ‘blame’ in anyway. Instead, I will ask you all the right questions in order to understand what is not working as well as you would like it to, from both your points of view. Whilst helping you both listen to and try and understand each other’s perspectives.

Your reason for seeking relationship counselling might be to “re-boot” your relationship, so you have a happier, more fulfilling future together. I will do everything to ensure you both feel safe and heard. The counselling space is an equal opportunity for you to share how you feel and why and hopefully able to see things from the other person’s perspective.

I will then help you learn new, more effective communication tools and strategies. These will be around increasing kindness and respect for each other by making only relatively small changes.

A positive relationship counselling experience can, amongst other things: –

Increase self-esteem
Improve intimacy between you
Improve your feelings of self-worth in the relationship
Help you both recognise and reduce negative and self-sabotaging behaviour
Leave you feeling more comfortable asking for your needs to be met within the relationship.

Alternatively. perhaps one or both parties feel a separation is inevitable and want help in doing so more amicably. As a neutral person I will support you in doing so whilst maintaining respect and compassion for each other.

As an accredited member of NCS I subscribe to their code of ethics. This includes undertaking continuous professional development and clinical supervision.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Daniella for couples counselling then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

Sian Jones

Online Counselling Practice

Online Marriage Counselling

 

My name is Sian Jones and I hold a BSc (hons) Psychology. I’m also a fully qualified relationship counsellor and CBT therapist offering online marriage counselling.

I am the founder of ‘Relationship Counselling Kent’ opening the first practice in Ashford eight years ago, before expanding across Kent. I have a proven track record in successfully helping hundreds of couples achieve their chosen goal.

How I can help you

When relationship’s aren’t working as well as we would like them to, emotions become heightened and it can be difficult to see the wood from the trees. Let alone be able to identify the part you have both played in the relationship running in to difficulties.

My approach to online marriage counselling is common sense, step by step, non-judgemental. I will encourage you to work through your problems together. Through the asking of relevant questions, you will both be given the opportunity to open up and explain what isn’t working for you and why.  In turn, this allows your partner the opportunity to really listen and try to understand your point of view.

It’s not necessarily about you agreeing or even liking each other’s perspective, it’s about understanding them. Nor is it about attributing blame. It’s about gaining a proper understanding of how the other person feels and why. Because when an ‘understanding’ from both parties is reached, it goes a long way in removing any hurt, resentment or anger that may have built up over the years. Therefore allowing you to move forward, in whichever way you choose.

The feedback I receive is that I have an exceptional ability to make couples feel quickly at ease . Experience shows, when people feel comfortable, they find it much easier to open-up, be honest and communicate more effectively.

Rest assured, I won’t sit there silently waiting for you to speak, I will take an active part in the conversation and the process of recovery and change. Read what couples say about me

My work is diverse and I have vast experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. I provide a non-judgemental  safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship challenges together.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development. I also have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at for Online Marriage Counselling. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment to see Sian

Janine Knight

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Counselling

 

Hello, my name is Janine Knight and I am an experienced ‘Relate’ qualified counsellor  specialising in online couple counselling for couples and individuals.  I am registered with the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) and experienced in working with a diverse range of relationship issues.

If you are in a relationship which does not feel right or you are struggling to reach compromises, resolve conflict or suppressing feelings of unhappiness, then relationship counselling can help.

My approach to online counselling is caring and empathetic. This means I will not judge you but rather enable you both to understand your relationship better and work through the issues that are troubling you.  I create a trusting, therapeutic relationship to enable you to gain new understanding and insights around what is not working in your life.

I was previously a registered Midwife working within the NHS and was drawn to the psychological aspects of care, talking to and understanding people’s experiences, often providing support following trauma.  My midwifery experience gave me many useful skills that I bring to my counselling role. I am a calm and positive person and I find it easy to relate to people.

Why choose me as your counsellor?

Relationship therapy is my specialist area and I am passionate about the job I do! I also understand how hard it can be to take that first step into couple counselling, because opening up to a stranger about the personal details in your life might feel a little daunting. Couples tell me that I quickly put them at ease which allows them to relax and engage in the therapy.

My communication style is friendly, relatable and down to earth and I have experience with every type of relationship, including different sexualities, ages, genders and cultural backgrounds.

Online Couple Counselling

I will provide you with a safe, confidential space where you can both share your thoughts and feelings about each other in a structured and meaningful way. At the start we will explore what you both hope to achieve from therapy. You may require help to understand each other more and make the relationship work better. Or perhaps have decided to separate and need help to do so more amicably. You may not know for sure what you want or you might be in very different places. That’s okay, I  will help you find clarity.

 How I work

Relationships require effort to remain healthy and couples don’t necessarily know how to do that work, particularly when problems arise.  Couple counselling helps you gain new emotional tools to navigate the next chapter in your lives more positively.

Together we will explore how individual patterns of behaviour might be negatively impacting your relationship. This is  because people are often unaware of how their reactions affect their partner. Couples often report having the same arguments over and over again without understanding their own role in this dynamic.

By identifying unhelpful behaviour ssuch as criticism, blame or shutting down, couples gain more insight into each other’s responses and where they come from. People may seek relationship counselling for many reasons but poor communication is usually the most common.

My Professional Qualifications

Level 5 Diploma in Relationship Counselling (CPCAB with Relate)

Level 4 Diploma in Relationship Counselling (CPCAB with Relate)

Foundation Certificate in Psychodynamic Counselling (The Counselling Centre, Tunbridge Wells)

Mediation Skills Certificates (voluntary work at Maidstone Mediation Centre)

Diploma of Higher Education in Midwifery Practice (Kings College University of London)

BSc (hons) Sociology

I work within the professional ethical boundaries of my registering body, the BACP. My membership number is 00927492.  I have regular supervision (group and individual) and I am committed to continuous professional development.  I am also fully insured with an enhanced DBS certificate.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Janine for online couple counselling. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Click  Booking Request

Beth West

Maidstone Practice

Couple Counselling Maidstone

 

Hello, my name is Beth and I am a fully qualified CBT therapist who offers a unique, tailor made approach to couple counselling called ‘Rational Emotive Counselling Therapy’ (RECT). Which is for couples struggling with emotional disturbance in their relationships

I hold an ‘Advanced Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)’ and ‘Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT)’ awarded by ‘The College of Cognitive Therapies London’. Both of which are accredited by the ‘National Counselling Society’ (NCS).

I am also a qualified Mediator, which means I am an unbiased third person who is called upon to help resolve any differences/disputes. I have mediated a range of disputes, including family, neighbourhood and employment disputes. This has given me a good insight into relationships and how they breakdown when one or both parties hold irrational demands on themselves or the other person.

I combine my experience as a mediator with my REBT training in order to provide ‘Rational Emotive Counselling Therapy (RECT) for couples.

My role in couple counselling

At the start of the session, I will ask you what you are hoping to achieve through couple counselling. Perhaps you want help in making your relationship work better than it currently is. Or maybe you would like help to be able to separate more amicably. Perhaps, at this point in time, you might be feeling a little sceptical as to whether the relationship can be any better, so you would like to see how the therapy goes before you decide.

It is not my mission to rescue or save a troubled relationship if that isn’t what you want. I will help you work towards your goal. If you are unsure as to which direction you want the relationship to take. I will help free you from any strong negative emotions so that you can make more informed decisions as to whether you want to continue the relationship.

If you decide you want to stay together, I will help you enhance your long-term happiness. This will be through helping you eliminate and replace relationship-defeating beliefs. We will then work on identifying and changing any dysfunctional/unhelpful behaviour patterns to ones that help achieve long-range happiness. I will teach you cognitive, emotive and behavioural skills so you are able to successfully resolve any problems in the future. Ensuring ongoing harmony and happiness once the relationship counselling sessions have come to an end.

My approach

Relationships require hard work in order to ensure both parties feel mutually supported, respected and secure. In today’s busy world, it can be all too easy to lose focus on connecting with, listening to and supporting your partner. I provide a warm and non-judgmental environment where you can talk openly about the problems from your individual perspective. We will work together to better understand the role you have both played in the relationship running into difficulties. I will then help you understand the changes and tools required so you can support one another going forward.

I will help you both to rebuild your confidence, understand the possibilities of relating to each other more effectively and feel more enabled to make empowered choices about your relationship.

Ethical Standards

I am an accredited member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and as such subscribe to and work within the NCS code of ethics. I undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to see Beth for couples counselling  please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

 

Sabine Hawkins

Birchington Practice

Couple Counselling Birchington

 

I’m Sabine Hawkins and I’m an experienced BACP (British Association Counsellors Psychotherapists) registered therapist based at Couple Counselling Birchington.

I understand that it can take great courage to reach out for help with your relationship. However, rest assured, most of us experience relationship difficulties at some point because life can be challenging at times. I provide a safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship difficulties together.

A number of things can impact our relationships. Which can include a stressful work/life balance, negative behaviour patterns, poor communication or external influences.

I offer couple counselling for every type of relationship and any kind of problem.

My approach to couple counselling

I provide a warm, safe, confidential environment in which we can work together to explore your relationship difficulties and help you make sense of what is going on.

At the beginning of the session I will ask what you hope to achieve out of the relationship therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better than it currently is. Or perhaps you would like help to separate more amicably. Maybe you are unsure as to what you want at this point, that’s okay we will work together to help you find some clarity.

I consider myself warm, approachable and non-judgemental. My aim is to ensure you both feel important and comfortable. I will help you to listen to each other’s perspectives. This will enable you to gain a better understanding of what each of you are experiencing, how you feel and why.  We will then explore the changes that need to be made so you are able to move forward more positively, in whichever way you choose.

I won’t just sit there and nod, instead I will take an active role in helping you make the changes that you choose. Feedback from the couples I have seen is that I am warm, easy to talk to, perceptive, encouraging and intuitive.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

if you would like to make an appointment to see Sabine at Couple Birchington. Please contact us at Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

Kaye Barney

Online Counselling Practice

Marriage Counselling Online

 

Hello, my name is Kaye Barney and I’m a fully qualified ‘Relate’ and ‘Tavistock’ trained individual and couples’ therapist. I hold a Psychology degree and a foundation degree in Relationship Counselling.

Relationship Counselling is my second career. It builds upon many years of experience working in commercial organisations, understanding human motivations and behaviour. Over the years I’ve also gathered a wide variety of life skills and experiences. I now help couples and individuals succesfully resolve their relationship problems.

About you

Do you feel unhappy in your relationship? Perhaps your relationship is stuck in a rut or you’ve grown apart? Maybe you’ve lost the spark that brought you together or keep going around and around with the same old arguments. Alternatively, you might be struggling to communicate at all.

Resentment might be simmering under the surface or there are fireworks every time you share what’s on your mind. Perhaps one of you has had an affair, leaving the other feeling betrayed. Or one of you feels invaded because your partner is too clingy.

Maybe you’re unsure whether you want to stay or leave a relationship.  You might know what you want, but don’t know how to do it. Or think what you want is different to what your partner wants.

Perhaps you want counselling on your own, or couples counselling with your partner.  Whatever your reasons might be for seeking relationship counselling online, I can help you find a way forward.

About marriage counselling online

Asking for help signifies the realisation that whatever your situation is, it won’t get better without something changing.

Making the decision to start relationship therapy can feel like a huge step. Perhaps you’ve been thinking about it for a while, or you have maybe been putting it off, in the hope that things will improve. Maybe you’re reluctant to talk about deeply personal issues with a stranger. Or nervous about what you might discover about yourself or your partner. Perhaps you’ve tried counselling before and felt it didn’t work or you didn’t ‘click’ with the counsellor.

Whatever your fears, I’ll help you feel at ease with my warm, friendly, non-judgemental approach. I’ll give you time to talk about your problems in confidence and at your own pace. I’ll help you find ways of coping. And if you come with your partner, rest assured that I’ll give you both space to be heard.

I will help you:-

  • Explore what happens with repetitive thoughts.
  • Unpick the arguments that go round and round.
  • Work out where these patterns come from.
  • Voice your expectations, hopes and fears.
  • Understand how you communicate and try new ways of talking.
  • Identify what to change and learn how to accept or tolerate what you can’t.
  • Consider a way forward by brainstorming options.

Ethical Standards

I have a BACP Certificate of Proficiency, demonstrating that I have the relevant, up to date skills to be a practising counsellor. As a registered BACP member, I work within their Ethical Framework. I am fully insured, DBS certified, and take part in ongoing supervision and professional development.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Kaye for marriage counselling online. Request an appointment

Jo Walmsley

Sittingbourne Practice

Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne

 

My name is Jo and I’m a fully qualified counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne . I am actually in Teynham which is easily accessible from Faversham, the Isle of Sheppey and Maidstone. I’m accredited by the NCS (National Counselling Society).

I am a professionally trained ‘Integrative Counsellor’ which means I take combined approach to therapy. This means I bring together different elements of specific therapies. Integrative therapists take the view that there is no single approach that can treat everyone in all situations.

I have vast experience in couple counselling as well as being a clinical supervisor. I will provide support to rebuild, repair and re-bond you relationship. Or sometimes if required, I will help facilitate the end of a relationship as amicably as possible.

My background/experience

I’ve experienced a variety of issues during my time as a therapist, achieved through private practice, agency work along with five years working within the NHS IAPT (improved access to psychological therapies)

My extensive knowledge and understanding has highlighted the importance of effective communication within relationships. Alongside understanding the impact problems such as sexual desire or dysfunction, long term health conditions, domestic abuse, anxiety, depression or anger can have on relationships. I have seen and heard most things, so I’m not easily shocked or embarrassed, so there is nothing taboo..If you need to talk about it then I’m here to listen.

How I can help

At the core of any successful therapy is the relationship between counsellor and the individual. Therefore, I strive to build a trusting and empathic relationship with you.

At marriage counselling Sittingbourne I provide a safe, confidential space to talk through your issues together. Helping you to understand how you’re past events and experiences may be responsible for your current beliefs and behaviour.

We may not always be aware; but sometimes our beliefs become unhealthy or may even be incorrect, which can lead to unhealthy behaviours filtering into the relationship. We are all influenced by our early years and the people around us. Therefore, it can be helpful to understand our partner’s history as well as understanding our own.

By helping you to understand yourselves, alongside finding more healthy ways of communicating, you will be equipped with the tools to make the most of your future and find happiness once again in your relationship.

I will tailor my work to suit your individual situation. I am a trained life coach so may use these skills alongside the therapy to help you manage life, maximise your potential and achieve your goals.

About me

If you are considering sharing your thoughts and emotions with me, it feels right to share a little of myself with you.  I’m just a pretty “normal” kind of person with a sarcastic sense of humour and a few battle wounds of my own.

I also struggle with my own issues some days but I get through them with a smile and a few expletives! #counsellorwhoswears. I love to laugh and always try to find a positive in every situation. However, it hasn’t always been this way. I have also had difficult times in my life when I thought I would never laugh again but I came through them. My own experiences give me the passion to help you through your difficult times.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP and NCS code of ethics and ethical framework. Additionally, I undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Marriage counselling Sittingbourne. Relationship counselling Faversham and couple counselling Faversham.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Jo at Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Link – Request an appointment

Allie Markantonis

Online Counselling Practice

Relationship Counselling Online

 

My name is Allie Markantonis and I’m fully qualified online  ‘Integrative Psychotherapeutic Counsellor for Relationship Counselling Kent. I’m an accredited member of the NCS (National Counselling Society) providing relationship counselling for both couples and individuals.

All relationships go through difficult times. Sometimes couples get stuck in recurring patterns. Consequently leading to recurring arguments or an avoidance of communication. As a result, the problems bubble away under the surface in silence and both parties feel disconnected, unhappy or lonely.

How I can help

It can be easy to find a counsellor but more difficult knowing you have found the right one for you. I consider myself down-to-earth and easy to relate to while providing a confidential, calm and supportive space to help you feel at ease. As a result, you will both feel safe enough to be able explore the issues in your relationship.

I won’t take sides, judge or offer ready-made solutions for your particular situation. In contrast, I work with you in a solution focused way.

You will have the opportunity to:-

Address negative and ‘stuck’ patterns in your relationship

Learn more about your own and your partner’s inner world and emotional needs

Talk openly and honestly with each other, in a way you may not have done for some time

Develop deeper understanding, connection and safety in the relationship

I fully understand that the time and investment you are making into couple counselling should be of maximum benefit. Therefore, my priority is to help you make the required changes as quickly as possible so you are able to move forward more positively.

Change doesn’t have to be a long process and it doesn’t have to involve lots of sadness and hurt.  Change begins the moment you both decide you want things to be different.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. Therefore, I undertake regular professional development and supervision. Alongside having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to book an appointment to see Allie for online marriage counselling.  Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Allie

Nariman Alaloosi

Online Counselling Practice

Relationship Therapy Online

 

My name is Nariman and I am a fully qualified ‘Integrative Psychosexual and Relationship therapist’ providing therapy to individuals and couples. I hold a certificate in ‘Counselling and Psychotherapy’ and a Diploma in ‘Psychosexual and Relationship therapy’. My training is accredited by Middlesex University in London and I’m a registered member of COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists).

How relationship therapy online can help

I believe that everybody’s situation is unique. Whether you are in a couple or you are seeking therapy on your own. I will use the relevant tools and methods based on your individual needs. I will support you to overcome any issues and help you achieve the goals you have set. Whether that is to enrich your relationship or to find a way to separate as amicably as possible.

I will provide you with a safe, non-judgmental and warm space. We will work together, for as long as you need. With the security of knowing that everything we discuss is treated with the genuine respect and in confidence.

My aim it to build rapport as quickly as possible, so hopefully you find it easier to open up and disclose the intimate aspects of your life. I understand that you are the expert of your life whilst I am the facilitator to hold and support you whilst you explore and navigate your way through your challenges.

How I work

My approach is ‘integrative’. This means I use different approaches, theories and tools that suit each person or couples needs. I use the ‘Person-Centered Approach’ when I feel you need to lead the way, which provides you with empathetic, non-judgmental space with unconditional positive regard.

The use of ‘Attachment Theory’ is beneficial in helping to build a stronger bond between partners, by looking back at the impact of childhood on current relationships. I may incorporate ‘Cognitive Behavioural Therapy’ (CBT) which helps individuals develop alternative ways of thinking and behaving that might be causing psychological distress. CBT helps to change negative thoughts or beliefs into more positive/rational ones.

Through the use of different communication tools and techniques I will help your find a way to communicate more effectively. Whilst ensuring you both feel heard and understood correctly.  I may also use some psychosexual exercises and methods, to support my work, for any areas of sexual dysfunction a couple might be experiencing.

My experience

I have experience working with a wide range of issues. Including (but not limited to) infidelity, communication issues and sexual anxiety. Such as: low sexual desire, arousal difficulties, orgasmic issues, erectile dysfunction, premature or delayed ejaculation.

My work has also involved dealing with problems such as vaginal pain, domestic violence, pregnancy and infertility, cultural diversity and its impact on the couple. Also, anxiety, anger and depression and the impact this can have on a relationship.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within COSRT code of ethics and ethical framework. Additionally, I undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Nariman for relationship therapy online. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Click – Request an appointment

 

Trish Mayne

Online Counselling Practice

Online Relationship Therapy

 

Hello, my name is Trish Mayne and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained couple counsellor, offering online relationship therapy for both couples and individuals.

For as long as I can remember I have had an interest in the way people communicate. Relationships are based around communication, whether that is with your partner, parents, children, colleagues and friends.

Our interaction with others can bring great joy and fulfilment. However, there are times when we all struggle with relationships. We change, others change and circumstances change. You and those around you can be left feeling confused and unhappy.

Maybe there is a relationship crisis in your life. It could be that your relationship is feeling unfulfilled. You may be unsure about the future together. You may want to prepare your relationship for a big life event you know is coming, such as becoming a parent or marriage.  It can be very difficult to find a place where you feel as if someone is really listening to you. This is where I, as a Relationship counsellor, can help.

My background

I began my career as a nurse within the NHS. This gave me the foundation to communicate with people of all ages when they were at their most vulnerable and needed support. I am also a qualified midwife and health visitor so I understand the physical and emotional changes that occurred when a couple were starting out as parents.

Personal expectations are challenged when a child comes into the family, and sometimes things are not as you were expecting them to be.  I have been privileged to gain the trust of many people I have worked with. Many feel better knowing they don’t have to be perfect.  It has been fulfilling to help people increase their self-belief and confidence.

I spent many years working with young parents, helping them to understand healthy relationships and have fulfilling attachments with their baby/ children.  I have used my knowledge of child development and psychology along the way.

My work with Relate over a number of years has been both face to face and online. I have worked with couples seeking help for relational problems such as: Wider family conflict; intimacy issues; infidelity or affairs; the loss of romance or excitement; mental and physical ill health affecting the relationship – to name but a few.

I also have counselling work experience with couples where one partner has recently been released from prison, successfully helping them to re-establish their relationship with their partner and children.

I strongly believe that listening is the key to understanding and I feel my varied work expertise brings a rounded understanding of people of all ages, all walks of life and in all sorts of situations.

Online relationship therapy

I will give you respect understanding, empathy and support. Whether you come as a couple or an individual. I will bring a warm, relaxed approach which will put you at ease and I aim to give you a feeling of being in control during our work together.

Sometimes we lose the skill of listening and understanding to what our partner is saying. I will give you space to explore your thoughts and feelings and think about how this affects your relationship.  You will need a space where there is equal time to think and speak.

My approach to your individual situation will be neutral and without judgement.  Along the way, I may challenge you if appropriate, or offer the odd suggestion. I won’t attempt to ‘fix ‘your relationship or tell you want you should or shouldn’t be thinking or feeling. Instead, I will sit with you while you are trying to make sense of your experience.

I hope that you will end your counselling with me feeling you have more control and understanding of your relationship.

Ethical standards

I subscribe and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and clinical supervision. I also have up to date professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Trish for online relationship therapy then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

Kathy Hoggart

Rye Practice

Couple Counselling Rye

 

My name is Kathy and I’m a fully qualified and experienced relationship counsellor at Relationship Counselling Kent.

My training and experience in couple counselling was achieved through ‘Relate’ where I worked for over twenty years.  I have worked with hundreds of individuals, heterosexual and same-sex couples helping them to achieve change.

In the past I worked as a family mediator, assisting couples come to terms with separation and the practical elements involved. Alongside being involved in mediation between parents and/or young adults experiencing a relationship breakdown.

I have attended many workshops and courses on a variety of subjects, such as Cultural Diversity, Mental Health and Attachment issues. I am committed to continuing my professional development.

My approach to couple therapy

Many couples have told me they find me empathic, non-judgemental and easy to work with.  The relationship problems brought to counselling are always varied but no problem is too big or too small. Some of the most common relationship concerns might include poor communication, arguments, loss, an affair or simply growing apart.

I work intuitively with a person-centred focus which means we will work at your pace and from your life perspective.  My aim is to build a rapport between us which will be about confidentiality, good listening, mutual respect and neutrality.  I will provide a comfortable and safe space to talk about the particular aspects you are struggling with.  Hopefully this will enable you to feel confident about sharing your story with me and working through your feelings.

I will support you whilst you try to understand what you need for yourself, and from each other, in order to bring about the desired change.  I will encourage you both to be open and honest. At times, I will reflect back what you tell me so you can begin to see things from the other’s perspective and listen to each other more effectively.  These are small, but important steps in helping break a cycle of behaviour which is having a negative impact on your relationship.

It is important that you both feel comfortable with me. At the end of the first session I will check out how you are feeling and what you hope to achieve from the counselling. We can review this throughout the process.

What to expect

Couple counselling is about ensuring that each person feels heard and taken seriously.  I won’t take sides or attribute blame.  I will respect your individual positions and time-manage the session. This will allow you both the opportunity to say what is important to you.

I use a variety of therapeutic approaches but often my work is solution-focused. Together, we can think about what will be most useful for you to achieve your goals.  It is also important to acknowledge how family history might influence patterns of behaviour within your current relationship. This can help you gain insights into how you relate to each other.

I appreciate that it might feel like a difficult journey to undertake, especially when feeling fragile. My job is to help you feel safe while you explore what is happening and why, so that you can look at your options and decide how to move forward.

Ethical standards

I work within the code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and clinical supervision. I also have up to date professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Kathy for couple counselling either online or in Rye then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

Elaine Brown

Deal & Canterbury Practice

Virtual Relationship Counselling

 

Hello, my name is Elaine Brown and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained relationship therapist.  I have had over six years’ experience both privately and with Relate supporting couples, individuals and young people.

I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and I am also an accredited member of the NCS (National Counselling Society).

My experience

Over a number of years, I have worked both in the private and public sector, as well as for voluntary and charity organisations.  This involved supporting a wide range of people, in a variety of different working environments, both in the UK and overseas. My work as a relationship therapist has led me to working with people from all walks of life and a wide range of diverse cultures and backgrounds. This includes same gender relationships, blended families, couples living apart, with or without children.

How I can help

Relationship counselling is often reflective and can be a difficult journey. Therefore, making the decision to come along for counselling can feel a brave one to make.  However, it is an important investment for you both individually and as a couple. I consider myself to be honest and considerate with a down to earth, friendly approach. I will use my experience, integrity and understanding to ensure you both feel heard, listened to and supported throughout the counselling journey.

Couples often tell me that the problems in their relationship go back months, if not years. And I’m aware how difficult this can be. Therefore, during our work together at Relationship Counselling Deal. I will help you navigate your way through your problems with empathy, kindness and respect.

I will endeavour to ensure you feel you have chosen the right relationship therapist for you. During my work, I use a variety of different theoretical approaches and therapeutic tools, tailoring to them to suit your particular needs. I will not judge you, but instead help you both to really understand each other’s perspectives. This will enable you to move forward in the way you choose.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the NCS code of practice and BACP ethical framework.

I also undertake regular professional development, have regular clinical supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to book an appointment to see Elaine for virtual Relationship Counselling. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

Beverley Simpkins

Sevenoaks & West Wickham Practice

Couple Therapy Sevenoaks

 

My name is Beverley Simpkins and I’m a fully qualified relationship therapist based at Couple Therapy Sevenoaks and West Wickham. I am an accredited by the NCS (National Counselling Society) and a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

I’m ‘Integrative counsellor’ which means I don’t believe in a ‘one size fits all’ approach. Therefore, I draw upon different theoretical approaches and tailor the sessions to suit your particular situation.

How I can help

My approach to couple counselling is ‘solutions focused’.  Which means that we will explore what needs to change/improve to enable you to move forward and achieve the goal you have set for yourselves. If both parties are willing, all relationship issues can be resolved with the right support.

We will also take time to look at the past. This will help you understand, from both perspectives, what hasn’t been working and why. The importantly explore the roles each of you have played in that. I will work with you to understand the challenges faced and assist you in developing clearer communication with each other.

My couple counselling, focuses on the relationship, not the individuals and my approach will be unbiased and non-judgemental. Therefore, allowing you both the opportunity to be open and honest.

The feedback from the couples I have seen is that I am down to earth and make them feel at ease straight away. I appreciate counselling might feel quite daunting at first, so I will do everything I can to help you feel relaxed.
My work is diverse and have vast experience working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships.

I subscribe to and work within the NCS code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. In addition, I undertake regular professional development and supervision.

Alongside holding professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at couple Therapy Sevenoaks or West Wickham or Sevenoaks. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent Today. Request to see Beverley

Gaylia Mitchell

Rochester Practice

Relationship Counselling Rochester

 

My name is Gaye Mitchell and I’m a fully qualified Psychotherapeutic Counsellor based a Relationship Counselling  Rochester. I’m accredited by the National Counselling Society (NCS) and experienced in both individual and couple counselling along with family therapy.

I an Integrative Counsellor, which means I use a combined approach to counselling, bringing together different elements of specific therapies. I don’t believe that there is a ‘one size fits all’ approach for all couples in every situation. So therefore I tailor my style to suit each individual couples needs.

I do understand, that taking the first step into couple counselling can be quite difficult. However,  rest assured, my approach is warm, understanding and empathetic. I shall provide a safe, confidential and non-judgmental space.

When our relationships go off track, it can lead to both parties feeling hurt and resentful. This then tends to result in one or both feeling less inclined to want to communicate with the other. I will help you both’really’ listen to your partners perspective and support you both in learning how to start communicating effectively again.

My work has been diverse and I have vast experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. I provide a non-judgemental  safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship challenges together. I’ll then support you in finding a way forward that is agreeable to you both.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

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If you would like to book an appointment to come and see me at then please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today Request an appointment with Gaye

Sherene Charles

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Counselling

 

Hello, and welcome. My name is Sherene Charles and I am a fully qualified and experienced individual and couple’s therapist at Relationship Counselling Kent. I am Senior Accredited with ‘The National Counselling Society’ (NCS) and the’ Infant Loss Foundation’ I am also a member of the ‘British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy’ (BACP).

As a qualified clinical supervisor, my work also involves providing support for other therapists, to help them work effectively with their clients. I am passionate about helping others navigate their way through the stress of everyday life, which is the reason I became a therapist. I find it rewarding supporting others and desire to help people to live their best life yet.

Why couples therapy online?

Generally, couples seek help with their relationship because they want relief from their pain and distress. Unfortunately, more often than not, it is when they have reached breaking point and their relationship is on fire. Sometimes, people find it difficult to admit to themselves that there is a problem in their relationship; let alone to their partner; silently hoping that if they ignore the issues, they will resolve themselves and go away.

However, in my experience, this is rarely the case. Because by and choosing to ignore the signs, it can be extremely detrimental to both parties. I believe, if you are concerned about your relationship, you will certainly benefit from relationship counselling. Or even if your relationship is ‘okay’ but you would like it to be ‘great’ then couples counselling can help you achieve that.

I feel privileged to be able to provide support for couples, who are often worn out by the same unresolved issues. Which, when left to fester, creates a sense of going around the same old mountain and resentment begins to build. Online couple therapy will provide you the opportunity to review your relationship in a safe and confidential environment. I will allow you the time and space to appreciate any aspects of your relationship that are working well and help you clearly identify any areas of improvement.

What to expect​

Laughter provides great benefit; it’s like medicine – but without the side effects. Therefore, humour is a key ingredient during my relationship counselling sessions. Along with offering you both warmth, challenge, empathy and compassion. I continually aspire to providing a safe setting that will enable you both the courage to examine what has gone in the past, which might have led you to this point. I will gently encourage you to face any deep fears and help you explore your hopes for the future.

During the first therapy session I will explain how the marriage counselling works. There will be an opportunity for you both to ask questions. I will ask for some basic information about you and we will complete an assessment together. This assessment enables me to gather any important information and establish your needs in order to find the best way for me to support you. It is also an opportunity for you to gain a sense of how I work. Alongside ensuring you feel comfortable with me and feel that I am the right therapist for you.

I gain great satisfaction and fulfilment in supporting couples as they courageously take steps towards moving forward more positively – in whichever way they choose.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Sherene for online couples’ counselling . Please contact her via Relationship Counselling today Booking Request

 

 

Lorna Ashley

Sidcup Practice

Relationship Counselling Sidcup

 

My name is Lorna Ashley and I’m a qualified ‘Integrative Counsellor’ based at Relationship Counselling Sidcup (Swanley).  ‘Integrative’ means I’m flexible in the way I work and use the best possible approach to achieve the outcome you choose.

Whether you decide that you want to stay together or want help in separating my aim is to promote a positive transition for change, fulfilment and self-awareness.

I have extensive experience in both relationship and individual counselling. I’m also a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

My experience

I have been practicing for a number of years both in private practice and for two charitable organisations, where my work focusses on bereavement and suicide. I am also clinical lead supervisor which means I advise other counsellors with elements of their work.

About relationships

Life happens and it’s not always kind. The things we thought we had a handle on and believed we could cope with, can suddenly seem uncertain, confusing and overwhelming. We might experience thoughts and feelings which leave us feeling unable to make sense of it all. Your inner world can be very different to your external world. How you feel you have to be seen or heard can lead to conflicting emotions within your relationship.

Very few relationships are conflict-free. When one of our most important relationship begins to falter, our health and happiness often suffers. Whilst many couples might try and work through their problems alone, it’s difficult when emotions are running high. Therefore, it can be incredibly useful to seek outside professional help.

How I can help

Together we will look at what lies behind the current difficulties from both your perspectives by paying attention both to the past and the present. In order to bring about change you desire.

My role at relationship counselling Sidcup is to facilitate change and resolution by helping you both communicate more effectively and reach your own conclusions under the guidance of a professional.

Whatever your age, background, race or culture, you are not alone. Together we can go walk the journey and explore what could be going on for you both. Being heard and talking freely in a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space can be incredibly empowering in understanding who you are and how you can be more true to you within your relationship, whilst navigating your own path for growth and development.

I am passionate in what I do and committed to working ethically and safely with my clients to overcoming the challenges that we are presented with.

Ethical standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development and supervision. I also hold professional indemnity insurance.

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If you would like to make an appointment to see Lorna at Relationship Counselling Sidcup (Swanley). Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Lorna

 

Kay Doherty

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Counsellor

 

My name is Kay Doherty and I am a fully qualified couple counsellor at ‘Relationship Counselling Kent’.  I have a Higher Diploma in Relationship Counselling and an Externship in ‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’.  I am also a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).

My specialist area is relationship counselling, offering counselling to both heterosexual and same sex individuals and couples. I feel alive when new couples come with their individual issues, because each couple’s situation is so different. Working alongside couples as they develop a more secure base and a deeper connection with each other is extremely rewarding.

What is Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was founded in Canada by Dr. Sue Johnson and is now practised worldwide.  It provides therapists with researched based tools that will enable a couple to feel connected and safe, through secure attachment.  EFT asserts that relationship problems occur when couples have experienced emotional disconnection with their partner  – which, in turn leads to struggles in the relationship. These struggles can develop into negative cycles which are difficult to break.  EFT will support you to get past these cycles, re-connect and build a secure relationship bond together. EFT can also be used to address individual issues.

How an online couple counsellor can help you

During our first session I will I explain how online relationship therapy works. I will also talk about confidentiality and my method of storing files/notes etc answering any questions you might have. This will also be your opportunity to tell me about the issues that you each feel need addressing – from both perspectives. Then together, we will discuss a plan going forward.

As a ‘Person Centered’ counsellor I believe each individual knows exactly what is best for them, on an individual level and within the relationship. Then, with the proper support, I will help you find the ability to heal yourselves.  I consider myself to be non-judgemental and accept people for who they are and how they feel. I understand the need for empathy and will take the time to get to know where you both are in the relationship. By allowing you both the time and space to listen and really ‘hear’ each other will bring great insight into the relationship.

‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’ has equipped me with the skills to assist you in exploring any recurring, negative patterns in your relationship. I will support you in learning new patterns of communicating and help you achieve a healthy, secure bond.

The process of change during our relationship counselling sessions can be transforming; and it will enable you to reach a place where you really ‘get’ each other.  Moving your relationship forward more positively in the way you have chosen to do so.

After the couple therapy ends

I will have helped you develop the skills required to be aware and recognise how a particular behaviour might lead to you slipping back into the negative cycle again.  This will allow you the negative cycle into positive interactions.  You will be able to fully understand each other and feel re connected again. The negative cycle will be replaced with love, understanding and security.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework.  I regularly partake in professional development, have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you are looking for an online couple counsellor and would like to make an appointment to see Kay. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Booking Request

 

Alison Day

Maidstone Practice

Marriage Counselling Maidstone

 

My name is Alison Day and I’m a qualified ‘Relate’ trained counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Maidstone. I’m a member of the BACP (British Assocation of Counselling and Psychotherapy) with over 9 year’s couple counselling experience . I use an ‘integrative approach’ when working with couples, individuals and families. Which means I draw upon a wide range of therapies in order to suit each individual couple.

Couple counselling can offer support at challenging and difficult life stages. It can help with communication, managing conflict, processing and releasing the build up of emotional resentment. Furthermore, it can help you find new ways to connect with each other.

How I can help

I have a warm, empathetic approach and provide a supportive environment, using practical interventions, to help to promote positive change and enhance understanding. This will help you build strong foundations and increase awareness of what the strengths are in your relationships as well as focusing on the difficulties and areas for potential change.

I will help you explore the challenges you may be facing and assist you in developing more effective communication with eachother. This will help you to find hope and a new way forward, in whichever way you choose.

I work diversely and have experience working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships – any relationship can cause stress and conflict. However, with the right help and support these issues can be resolved.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Couple counselling Maidstone and relationship counselling Maidstone for any type of relationship and all kinds of problems.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me then please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Alison

 

Sally Cloke

Ashford Practice

Couple Therapy Ashford

 

Hello, my name is Sally Cloke and I am an experienced, BACP accredited integrative therapist and couple counsellor based at Couple Therapy Ashford (Brabourne) practice.

Sometimes couples view couple counselling as last resort. That’s because they may have been experiencing ongoing difficulties for a long time and  have reached a point where they are considering separation.

Alternatively, couples feel unsure that couple counselling is the right path for them. In my experience, a vast majority of couples find it a positive experience. Often reporting, that they wished they had started couple therapy many months /years before.

People seek help with their relationship for a variety of reasons. A vast majority of couples are hoping to make their relationship work better than it currently is. In which case, relationship counselling is highly successful. That is if both parties are willing to ‘really’ listen to their partner.  I will emphasise the importance of each seeing his or her contributions to the problems and the possible solutions going forward.

Other couples seek couple therapy for help in separating. If so, I will help you do so more amicably. Alternatively, some couples are not quite sure what they hope to achieve and will decide later, that’s also OK. I will tailor the sessions for what you are both hoping to achieve, even if you are unsure.

How I can help

My aim is to provide you and your partner with a safe and confidential setting to help you explore and progress your relationship. Regardless of your age, race, religious beliefs, gender identity or sexual orientation. I consider myself understanding and empathetic and I work with the ‘relationship’ rather than the individuals in an accepting and non-judgmental way.

I will help you improve the communication between you, effectively creating curiosity and support, rather than conflict. We will work together to help you to understand how you, and your partner. can express your individuality while simultaneously supporting your relationship. This is the art of differentiation. Once you’ve passed through the “we” of the romantic stage, successful differentiation is the key to an authentic and fulfilling longer-term relationship.

Common relationship issues include –

  • Misunderstandings and tensions resulting from differences in viewpoints
  • Experiencing a range of feelings including; resentment, anger, and anxiety
  • A lack of trust or loss of connection
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Infidelity
  • Difficulties arising with other family members

At Couple Therapy Ashford the sessions are divided between spending time with each couple together. Then individual conversations with each spouse.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Sally at Couple Therapy Ashford then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent Request an appointment

 

 

Laura Mc Carthy

Ramsgate Practice

Relationship Counselling Ramsgate

 

My name is Laura Mc Carthy and I’m based at Relationship Counselling Ramsgate.

I’m a fully qualified, warm and approachable certified Transactional Analyst (CTA) psychotherapist and counsellor. My accreditation is with the UKCP and a registered member of the BACP (British Asscociation Counselling & Psychotherapy)

I offer a safe, non-judgemental and supportive environment. My aim is to help couples communicate better and improve their understanding of the issues within their relationship.

I will seek to uncover any repeated, negative behavioural patterns between you and identify points of difference or ‘stuck’ areas because by being aware of how you relate when the relationship isn’t working well ensure you are conscious of the role you both play. Above all, you will have the opportunity to choose to do things differently so the relationship becomes stronger and happier.

I don’t believe in one size fits all approach and will tailor the sessions to meet your individual needs.

My work is diverse and I have vast experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. I provide a non-judgemental  safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship challenges together.

Ethical Standards

Finally, I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and supervision. As well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Couple counselling Ramsgate and marriage counselling Ramsgate

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at Relationship Counselling Ramsgate then please do contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Laura

 

Dr Tim Burns

Whistable Practice

Marriage Counselling Whitstable

 

My name is Dr Tim Burns. I’m a fully qualified relationship counsellor based at marriage counselling Whitstable. My training at ‘Tavistock Relationships’ led to me becoming an accredited practitioner in couple therapy for depression. Alos a BSc and MSc in psychology and a postgraduate diploma in ‘Integrative Psychotherapy’ for individual counselling.

My Experience

I have worked in the field of adult mental health for almost 15 years. The majority of which was within primary care mental health services. Alongside my own private work with couples.

Couples bring a variety of issues into therapy. For instance, infidelity, sexual difficulties, issues related to physical and mental wellbeing. In addition to, difficulties in work/life balance and managing each partners expectations of the relationship.

I have broad therapeutic experience which I draw upon to enrich my work. I have experience working with a diverse range of couples. Including those from differing socio-economic and cultural backgrounds. Through to same sex couples or where one or both have transitioned. I have worked with couples in the early stages of their relationship to those having been together for many decades.

How I can help

I provide a safe and supportive and non-judgemental space for you to talk through your issues. I will seek to build improved communication and understanding between you. My approach will allow you both the opportunity to explore your individual attachment styles. Above all, you will be provided the time to communicate your needs whilst building empathy and tolerance towards each other.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the ethical frameworks of both the BPS and the BACP. Alongside undertaking regular professional development and supervision. I also hold full professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at Marriage Counselling Whitstable. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Tim

 

 

Sarah Warrington

Sevenoaks Practice

Relationship Counselling Sevenoaks

 

My name is Sarah Warrington and I’m a fully qualified integrative psychotherapist/counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Sevenoaks. I have worked with both individuals and couples in private practice for over five years.

I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). Alongside being an accredited member of the NCS (National Counselling Society)

How I can help

Integrative means I’m trained in different theoretical approaches so I can tailor the therapy to the style which suits you best.

During my couple counselling sessions I work mainly in a ‘solution focused’ way. This means we will focus on what we can change to improve your relationship going forward. We will of course look back at the past because it’s is important to gain an understanding of what has caused issues in your relationship. This will be from both your perspectives so both feel heard and understood. We can then focus on what you both require from each other going forward to achieve your relationships goals.

In couples counselling, it is the relationship that is the client, not the individuals. Therefore, I always aim to remain unbiased and non-judgmental and allow you both the opportunity to talk openly and honestly with each other, in a way you may not have done for some time.

I believe that to get the most out of counselling, it is important to find a therapist that is right for you. For it to be successful, you will need someone you can connect with and feel comfortable and secure opening up to. The feedback I get is that clients are very comfortable talking to me and they find it easy to be open and talk honestly about how they really feel. This helps clients to feel understood and gets you both communicating more effectively.

I work diversely with vast experience working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within BACP code of ethics and ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Couple counselling Sevenoaks and marriage counselling Sevenoaks

If you would like to book an appointment to Sarah at relationship counselling Sevenoaks.  Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Sarah

 

 

Tanya Thompson

Herne Bay Practice

Couple Counselling Herne Bay

 

My name is Tanya Thompson. I’m a UKCP Registered psychoanalytic psychotherapist based at Couple Counselling Herne Bay. I have extensive experience working within the NHS and private practice both with individuals, couples and families.

Couples therapy provides an opportunity to work through relationship difficulties. Alongside exploringe the origin of the conflicts you might be facing. Often we can find ourselves in trouble when negative repetitive patterns of relating develop. Resulting in getting stuck in certain dynamics – not knowing how to bring about change.

I’m warm, open and non-judgemental. Meaning I will provide a supportive and safe space for your to explore, process and work through your difficulties. Often problematic modes of communication surface within the context of therapy. This can be in the content of what we say, how we say it and how we are with each other. Because I’m objective; it mean I’m well placed to be able to recognise any negative relationship patterns as they surface during our sessions.

During the therapy we will consider both individual and the couple difficulties. I will sensitively help you to think about more useful ways of communicating your needs effectively. Feeling heard and understood results in improvements in personal relationships and how you feel about yourself and in relation to others. This will result in your relationship  becoming stronger and ultimately more fulfilling.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Relationship counselling Herne Bay and marriage counselling Herne Bay.

If you would like to book an appointment to come and see me at couple counselling Herne Bay then please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Tanya

 

Tara Cratchley

Tonbridge Practice

Couple Counselling Tonbridge

 

My name is Tara Cratchley and I’m a fully qualified counsellor and psychotherapist based at Couple Counselling Tonbridge. I am a registered and accredited member of the BACP (British Association Counsellors Psychotherapists).

I have a number of years’ experience in both individual and couple counselling. And a highly successful track record of helping couples achieve their goals through exploring the issues within their relationship. I offer a safe, non-judgemental environment, which is important in order to gain a greater understanding of the bigger picture.

The feedback I have had is that I have a warm, approachable nature with a down to earth approach. Most importantly, I tailor my work for each individual couple and each particular situation. My aim is to help you both identify any unhelpful patterns of behaviour and communication within your relationship that might be contributing to the problems. Read what people say about me

How I can help

I will provide the appropriate support to encourage honesty between you – so you both gain a full understanding of each others perspectives and what led to your seeking help in the first place.

You will be given the opportunity to gain a greater understanding or yourself and your partner and the role each of you play in the relationship. You will then learn how to communicate more effectively going forward, having gained, through our work, the tools to do so. This process will result in stronger, happier relationship in the future.

My work experience is diverse across mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. Because any relationship can become difficult. However, with the right help and support these issues can be overcome.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

For any type of relationship and any kind of problems.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at couple Counselling Tonbridge then please do contact me at Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment with Tara

Tracey Neale

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couples Therapy

 

Hello, my name is Tracey Neale and I’m an experienced, BACP accredited (British Association Counselling and Psychotherapy) ‘Integrative Counsellor’ offering online couples therapy for Relationship Counsellling Kent for both couples and individuals.

‘Integrative counselling’ means I use different therapeutic models depending, on each couple’s individual needs, or where they are in their therapeutic journey. This approach enables me to work with flexibility, tailoring my therapy for your unique situation.

How I can help

With over ten years’ experience counselling couples I will help you improve the communication between you. Firstly, through achieving a better understanding of any unresolved issues alongside exploring the complexities within your relationship. Secondly, I will gently challenge any negatives beliefs or patterns of behaviour that might be having a detrimental effect on your relationship.

My aim is to ensure you both feel comfortable enough to open up on both an honest, intimate level. This is will be achieved by providing you the time and space, not only to talk, but to really listen. The safety of the therapy room will hopefully encourage honesty and the opportunity to understand the issues from each other’s point of view.

By supporting you both through change, means you can begin to look towards a more positive future. When you invest time and energy into your counselling experience, it can be a positive step which brings about positive change.

My approach is non-judgmental and empathic. Most importantly, I respect every couples right to confidentiality.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to book an appointment to see Tracey for online couples therapy. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Tracey

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