In our experience here at Relationship Counselling Kent, couples often start having marriage problems because their relationship has become stale. This is one of the most common reasons that bring couples to therapy, particularly when they have been together for a number years.
More often than not, one or both parties, have become disillusioned, complacent, and uncommunicative and are at a loss as to how to turn things around. Despite living in the same house people often admit to living quite separate lives. This is not due to any major issues necessarily, but because the connection they once shared has been lost and they have grown apart.
Most couples who are experiencing marriage problems claim to still love each other (often due to the history they share. However, many admit to not particularly ‘liking’ or respecting each other anymore. It seems that the characteristics or traits their partner, which they once might have found endearing, often ends up as a bone of contention, causing frustration and resentment to the other person.
Marriage counselling or couple therapy explores, from each persons perspective, when things started to change and why. It also helps you find out how each person perceives the others communication style. And examines the meaning the other person places on them. A third party enables a new insight and understanding. This will allow you to move your relationship forward in a more positive way.
It’s not about attributing blame to either one of you, it’s about gaining understanding of each others points of view and feelings. More often than not, both parties will have unintentionally played a role in the relationship becoming stale.
So if you would like some professional help to resolve your marriage problems, then contact at Relationship Counseliing Kent today. Request an appointment
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change.
Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues.
After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time.
He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .
Clive and Julie
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.
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