Stale Relationships
Has your relationship become stale?
In our experience here at Relationship Counselling Kent, couples often start having marriage problems because their relationship has become stale. This is one of the most common reasons that bring couples to therapy, particularly when they have been together for a number years.
More often than not, one or both parties, have become disillusioned, complacent, and uncommunicative and are at a loss as to how to turn things around. Despite living in the same house people often admit to living quite separate lives. This is not due to any major issues necessarily, but because the connection they once shared has been lost and they have grown apart.
Most couples who are experiencing marriage problems claim to still love each other (often due to the history they share. However, many admit to not particularly ‘liking’ or respecting each other anymore. It seems that the characteristics or traits their partner, which they once might have found endearing, often ends up as a bone of contention, causing frustration and resentment to the other person.
How can couple counselling help?
Marriage counselling or couple therapy explores, from each persons perspective, when things started to change and why. It also helps you find out how each person perceives the others communication style. And examines the meaning the other person places on them. A third party enables a new insight and understanding. This will allow you to move your relationship forward in a more positive way.
It’s not about attributing blame to either one of you, it’s about gaining understanding of each others points of view and feelings. More often than not, both parties will have unintentionally played a role in the relationship becoming stale.
So if you would like some professional help to resolve your marriage problems, then contact at Relationship Counseliing Kent today. Request an appointment
Problems we can help you with
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Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
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The Impact of Pornography
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Stale Relationships
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'Stuck' Relationships
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Dealing with the Death of a Partner
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Jealousy and Suspicion
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Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
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Infidelity or Affairs
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Intimacy Problems
Reviews
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Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas"
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Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view"
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Sian Jones - Ashford "We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!
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Tara Cratchley - Tonbridge "The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"
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Allie Markantonis - West Malling "It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"
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Sian Jones - Ashford "We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again"
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Debra Osborne - Rochester "As you know Debra I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship"
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Beverley Mears - Whitstable "Having Beverley help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much"
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Sabine Hawkins - Birchington "We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time"
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Sian Jones - Ashford "Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!"
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Sian Jones - Ashford "When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems"
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Gaye Mitchell - Rochester "Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy Maidstone but Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever"
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Sian Jones - Ashford "I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at marriage counseling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel"