It’s very common for a relationship to go through phases where one or both partners lose interest in sex.
However, when a relationship loses it passion and intimacy long term, it can cause problems in your relationship. Perhaps your relationship lost its intimacy? Does your partner pull away from you perhaps and doesn’t want to cuddle let alone have sex? Do you feel confused, hurt and rejected because of it? Perhaps you are the one who doesn’t want to be intimate with your partner? Maybe you don’t feel loved or respected by your partner, so the last thing you feel like doing is being physically close?
Intimacy is not just about sex, it’s also about the closeness a couple share in a romantic relationship that is different to other relationships.
This can be simply down to the fact that sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time. It’s not unusual for partners to have different sex drives at different stages of their relationship.
You may have reached a stage in your relationship where you love your Modafinil partner, but life together has just become predictable, stale and boring. Therefore, the intimacy has diminished or completely disappeared. This can leave either one or both of you feeling upset, hurt and rejected. If this is left too long it can become a difficult or embarrassing subject to broach.
The passion you may have once felt has gone and with intimacy on the decline, feelings of resentment can start to diminish.
This usually happens gradually over a period of time where perhaps over-familiarity or complacency has set in.
Sometimes it begins after you have children and your priorities change. Or it could be down to poor communication or too many arguments. Sometimes it can be a lack of physical attraction or needs not being met. Perhaps selfish behaviours may play a role or one or both of you just don’t feel appreciated any more.
Our relationship therapists will help you both talk through your feelings on the situation. We will encourage you to be honest, particularly if you are the one who is less interested in intimacy with your partner. It’s only fair that you partner understands what is behind it to ease any hurt
If you feel your partner is causing the problem, by being honest and putting them in the picture allows them the opportunity to change things if they can.
If you would like to come and talk to one of our relationship therapists about the problems with intimacy in your relationship contact us today. Request an appointment
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Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.
Jackie Hare Dear Jackie, I can't thank you enough for all your help during our sessions. You have given me the tools and skills I need to move forward in a positive way. I particularly liked the way you had saved notes from my first contact for counselling so that at the end we could re-cap and ensure all my issues had been worked through. Having the notes from you has really helped too as I like to be able to read through them so that I don't forget anything important that we talked about. What was really interesting is the way you helped me to work through my problems rather than just suggesting solutions to me. I enjoyed my "eureka" moments where suddenly a penny would drop and I would see something from a completely different perspective. And as far as those eureka moments go, I still have them - do you remember we talked about how unrealistic a lot of those romantic comedies are particularly from the 80s and 90s and I realised recently that a lot of pop songs can be exactly the same if you listen to the lyrics. I listen and watch now with a very different point of view! Not sure if you found it online but the documentary called Romantic Comedy by Elizabeth Sankey is really interesting to watch. Thanking you so much, Best wishes, Neana x
Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.