At Marriage Counselling Kent, experience shows, time and time again, that poor communication is at the root of most relationship problems. Sometimes couples find themselves unable to communicate and become stuck in a state of arguing and unhappiness so struggle to resolve the issues between them. As a result one or both parties give up the will to make the relationship work.
More problems are caused in relationships when things go unsaid, than when they are said; as long as they are said in the right way. One of the most common reasons couples become ‘stuck’ in the same vicious cycle of arguing is often because of a lack of honesty. Honesty is not the same as lying, it’s about not telling the truth. Not telling the truth about how you really feel and what you need. Likewise, telling the truth about what is bothering you about your partner’s behaviour. A result of this act of honesty can lead to resentment building on one or both sides.
A feeling of not being listened to.
Feeling unappreciated or taken for granted.
An angry or aggressive partner.
A partner who sulks or a lack sex and intimacy.
Different values around children and money or who spending too little time together.
People often avoid being honest with their partner through a fear of conflict or a belief they won’t be listened to. Resulting in problems getting pushed under the carpet, by one of both parties. This can go on for many years. Being honest is about taking responsibility for how you feel and why. It’s about talking to your partner calmly and openly. Above all, it’s not about attributing blame or getting angry. It’s important to remember, as human beings we only tend to really listen when we don’t feel attacked or criticised.
Our couple counsellors will help you find an effective way of communicating with each other. Together, you will explore what’s not working, from your perspective. Above all, you will both have the opportunity to talk and to be heard. Effective communication is the vital ingredient for a successful relationship.
If you are experiencing relationship problems. Perhaps it’s time to pull up the carpet and get everything out on the table. Consequently, your relationship can move forward in a much more positively way with a new understanding. If you would like some professional help at Marriage Counselling Kent contact us today. Request an appointment
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.
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Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.
Jackie Hare Dear Jackie, I can't thank you enough for all your help during our sessions. You have given me the tools and skills I need to move forward in a positive way. I particularly liked the way you had saved notes from my first contact for counselling so that at the end we could re-cap and ensure all my issues had been worked through. Having the notes from you has really helped too as I like to be able to read through them so that I don't forget anything important that we talked about. What was really interesting is the way you helped me to work through my problems rather than just suggesting solutions to me. I enjoyed my "eureka" moments where suddenly a penny would drop and I would see something from a completely different perspective. And as far as those eureka moments go, I still have them - do you remember we talked about how unrealistic a lot of those romantic comedies are particularly from the 80s and 90s and I realised recently that a lot of pop songs can be exactly the same if you listen to the lyrics. I listen and watch now with a very different point of view! Not sure if you found it online but the documentary called Romantic Comedy by Elizabeth Sankey is really interesting to watch. Thanking you so much, Best wishes, Neana x
Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.