Couple Therapy Sevenoaks

Hello, my name is Andrew and I am based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Sevenoaks practice. I am fully quailifed therapist and hold an advanced diploma in couples counselling, which means I am better able to support you in this specialised area of work. I also have a Certificate in Psychosexual Therapy and I’m a registered member of NCS (National Counselling Society).

Any couple is welcome to my practice, regardless of sexual orientation, ethnicity, or age. I also welcome individuals with relationship concerns or challenges.

When We First Meet

I appreciate that coming to therapy may feel daunting, particularly if it is the first time for you. My priority is to ensure you feel comfortable and at ease. I will ensure that both of you have the time and space to be heard and explain why you have come to therapy and what you would like to achieve from the process.

You may find it hard to put your finger on exactly what is wrong or perhaps feel overwhelmed by the number of things you want to get off your chest. That is fine and I will work with you to help identify the key issues and discover patterns. Conversely, you may worry that your problems seem relatively trivial. I believe that all couples can benefit from therapy and I will help support you whether your issues feel big or small.

My Approach to Couple Therapy

I do not follow an ‘off the shelf’ model because I believe that each couple is unique. Therefore, I will tailor my approach to cover your wants and needs.

Usually, we will discuss each partner’s previous history, particularly childhood, as the way we interact with each other is influenced by our past. I will also provide you with some tools and techniques to help improve your relationship in the here and now.

Additionally, we will look to the future. I will help build your development and growth both as a couple and as individuals. You may ultimately decide that it is better to end your relationship. If that is the case, I will support you through that process to help ensure that it is constructive and as amicable as possible.

Common Problems I Work With

The relationship issues that I can help you with include, but are not restricted to : – poor communication; infidelity and loss of trust. Intimacy problems and lack of desire. Relationship conflict; differences in values and/or life choices.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the NCS ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development. I also have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me for couple therapy Sevenoaks. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Book now with Andrew

Why use us?

Experienced

Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.

Qualified

BSC (hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
PGCert Psychotherapy

Professional

We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.

Convenient Locations

Ashford
Bexley
Birchington
Bromley
Canterbury
Dartford
Gravesend
Herne Bay
Maidstone
Rochester
Sevenoaks
Tonbridge
Whitstable

Reviews

Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.

John Wood and Heather townsend
Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.

EP & WP
Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.

Jacqueline B
Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.

Nik Edwards
Tim Gilbert
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change. Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .

Clive and Julie
Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "

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Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"

J & P
Elaine Brown
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"

H & S
Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again" Request an appointment

Scott and Sue – Great Chart
Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Hakki – Bromley
Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))" Request an appointment

Rosalyn and Patrick
Tunbridge Wells
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!" Request an appointment

Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship" Request an appointment

Steve M
Rochester
Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much" Request an appointment

Byron & Claire – Whitstable
Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time" Request an appointment

Tracey B & Tom
Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!" Request an appointment

Mr & Mrs Donahue Folkestone
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems" Request an appointment

Anonymous
Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever" Request an appointment

Hayley and John
Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel" Request an appointment

Paul & Sue
Folkestone, Kent