What Happens in Couples Counselling?
Starting couples counselling can feel like a big step—but it’s often the first move toward real change, deeper connection, and understanding. Whether you’re feeling stuck, distant, or in conflict, couples counselling offers a safe space to explore what’s going on and how to move forward—together.
In this blog, we’ll walk you through what to expect from the process, so you can feel more confident about taking that first step.
What is Couples Counselling?
Couples counselling, sometimes called relationship therapy, is a structured and supportive form of therapy where you and your partner talk openly with a trained therapist. The aim is to understand each other better, resolve conflict, and improve communication.
It’s not about placing blame—it’s about working together with support and guidance.
What Happens in the First Session?
In your first session, your therapist will:
- Get to know you both and understand your relationship history
- Ask about any challenges you’re facing (such as communication breakdowns, trust issues, or repeated arguments)
- Explain how the counselling process works and what you can expect
It’s completely normal to feel nervous, but there’s no pressure to say everything at once. The first session is a chance to get comfortable and begin building trust with your therapist.
How Do the Sessions Work?
Couples counselling is a collaborative process. Your therapist will:
- Help you both express your thoughts and feelings safely
- Offer insights into patterns that may be affecting your relationship
- Guide you through practical tools and strategies to manage conflict and improve communication
- Encourage reflection and small changes between sessions
Sessions are 60 minutes and take place either face-to-face in Kent or online via Zoom.
What Kind of Issues Can It Help With?
Couples come to therapy for all kinds of reasons, including:
- Arguments and conflict
- Poor communication
- Emotional distance or intimacy concerns
- Infidelity or loss of trust
- Life transitions (such as becoming parents, moving, or retirement)
Whether your relationship feels strained or you just want to strengthen your connection, couples therapy can help.
Will the Therapist Take Sides?
No. A professional couples therapist is always neutral and non-judgemental. They’re there to support both of you equally, helping you feel heard and understood.
Do We Have to Come as a Couple?
Ideally, couples counselling works best when both partners attend. But if your partner isn’t ready, you can start individual sessions to explore your side of the relationship and gain clarity.
How Do We Get Started?
If you’re ready to take the first step, we offer a simple online booking system to help you find a time that works. You can choose to meet with a therapist at one of our Kent-based locations or book a Zoom session from the comfort of your home.
Final Thoughts
Couples counselling is a positive step—not a sign of failure. It shows a commitment to understanding, growth, and connection. Whatever you’re facing, you’re not alone. We’re here to help you move forward—together.
Ready to begin?
Book your couples counselling session today
Or get in touch if you have any questions.
