In an ideal world, we would all be born with perfectly attuned parents who love us and are there for our every need but who also give us just the right amount of space and independence to flourish and fully develop. All our parents would provide a solid base from which we could venture out as separate individuals because we would feel safe and secure.
There are a many different reasons that some people are single. Some simply choose to be and are not interested in being in a relationship at a particular point in their life, if ever. Ohers are single due to circumstances; they may have just come out of a relationship or just haven’t been able to find someone with whom they feel they are compatible with. There are also a number of people who are constantly looking for an answer to the question “why am I still single” In my experience the answer to this is complex but more in our control than we might think.
When did the person you couldn’t bear to live without, turn in to the person you can barely live with?