Hello, my name is Dolores and I am a fully qualified couples counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Gravesend. I have a diploma in ‘’Integrative Counselling’ and I’m trained in ‘Couples Dynamics’. I’m accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and have over 10 years’ experience.
Perhaps you are finding it difficult to accept each other for who you are. Or maybe, when disagreements arise, you are communicating with negativity and contempt rather than with respect and understanding. Alternatively, you might feel the decision-making, power and influence in the relationship is one sided.
In my experience, it is so important that relationships are managed and nurtured ongoing. Because if not, they can fall by the wayside. Problems tend to occur in relationships when there is a lack of understanding through poor communication. This can then lead to feelings of hurt, disappointment and inadequacy, resulting in resentment building up if not discussed effectively. These unresolved recurring situations or patterns in relating to one another’s feelings can often lead to anger, depression and/or anxiety.
As a relationship counsellor my focus is always on your relationship. Firstly, by trying to understand the problem/s you are facing and also your desired outcome through having therapy. That is if you know of course. Sometimes couples are unsure as to what they want to achieve when they first start marriage counselling. Perhaps you need help to make your relationship work better than it currently is or perhaps you would like help to separate in an amicable way. Maybe you might want different things or you are unsure. That’s okay, we will work together to help you find clarity to enable you to move forward more positively.
During our sessions I will ensure the dynamic between you is balanced, which means you will both have the opportunity to talk and to be heard. I will support your expression and your communication. My role is also to help you listen and try and understand your partners perspective, thoughts and feelings.
Relationships work better when both people feel safe and comfortable enough to share their feelings. Additionally, couples feel closer when they know they can trust and rely on each other. I will help you achieve this if that is what you want.
My approach to couple therapy is solution focused. This means, I will help you bring about change by constructing solutions rather than focusing on the problems. I will gently encourage you to look at yourselves as individuals and the role you play in the relationship. By having an un-biased third party in the room can help take some of the emotion out the situation, so you are able to talk, listen and see things more clearly.
Where necessary I will provide support in how to create healthy boundaries in your relationship. Help with problems with intimacy or sexual compatibility. Perhaps you are looking for help following infidelity, parenting or co-parenting. No problem is too big or too small
My work is diverse and I’m experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships.
I subscribe to and work within the BACP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I have monthly supervision and regularly undertake professional development
If you would like to make an appointment to see Dolores for marriage counselling then please contact us today. Request an appointment