Hello, my name is Lynn Garbutt and I am a fully qualified Cognitive Behavioural therapist and couple counsellor. I hold a PGDip in ‘Cognitive Behavioural Therapy’ (CBT/REBT) and have over five years’ experience in helping both couples and individuals make positive changes in their lives and relationships.
In my experience, it’s common for relationships to go through troubling periods and this can have an impact on the health and happiness of both parties, as well as other family members. When emotions are running high, it can be difficult to appreciate and understand our partners perspective. This it can lead to feelings of hurt, resentment, confusion and loneliness.
At the beginning of the first session, I will ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better, or whether you would like help in separating more amicably. Perhaps you are not sure which direction you would like your relationship to take and would like to see how the therapy goes before you decide. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know, or if your answers are different, I will help you both work through things in order to find clarity.
The therapeutic relationship between us is of the upmost importance in order for the therapy to be successful in achieving the goal you have set yourselves/self. Therefore, I will strive to build a trusting and empathic relationship with you. I will also tailor my approach to suit your unique situation.
My approach to relationship therapy is down to earth and common-sense and will help you work through your issues step by step. I may draw upon the tools of CBT to gently challenge you both about the negative impact any unhelpful behaviours might be having on the relationship
The vast majority of issues caused in relationships because of poor communication. It is common for couples to claim listen to what the other is saying but they don’t actually ‘hear or understand’ what is being said. I will help you to try and appreciate each other’s point of view in a calm, supportive, non-judgemental space. It’s not about agreeing with each other necessarily, it’s about learning to understand and appreciate your partners point of view.
Together we will work on finding any negative patterns of behaviour (which includes the way you speak to each other) which are impacting your relationship. People are often unaware of how their reactions/behaviours might be having a detrimental effect on their partner. Couples often describe having the same arguments over and over again without understanding how their own actions are contributing to the problems.
I will take an active role during our sessions by helping you both reflect back each other’s perspective. It is also important that you both feel comfortable with me in order to get the best out of each session. The feedback I have received from couples has said that I am warm, perceptive and impartial, so hopefully you will feel relaxed enough to share your story with me.
I subscribe to and works within the UKCP Code of Ethics and the BACP Ethical Framework and undertakes regular professional development. Alongside having professional indemnity insurance.
If you would like to make an appointment to see Lynn for couple counselling Egerton or online. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment