This is well worth a watch; it’s somewhat tongue in cheek, however, experience has shown – it’s very accurate.
It’s not about the nail…..
Blog
Why am I still single?
There are a many different reasons that some people are single. Some simply choose to be and are not interested in being in a relationship at a particular point in their life, if ever. Ohers are single due to circumstances; they may have just come out of a relationship or just haven’t been able to find someone with whom they feel they are compatible with. There are also a number of people who are constantly looking for an answer to the question “why am I still single” In my experience the answer to this is complex but more in our control than we might think.
How to Recover from Your Partners Affair
Discovering our partner has been unfaithful can one of the most devastating experiences of our life. Often our initial reaction will be one of shock and anger followed by hurt and despair. However, after the initial blow has subsided, it’s important that you try and understand exactly what and why has happened in order to establish if you are both able to move on from it.
The 7 Year Itch – Is There Such a Thing?
There appears to be a large degree of truth behind this myth because it’s supported by evidence – divorce rates in the UK show a trend in couples getting divorced, on average, around the 7th year of marriage. Having said that, couples certainly don’t need to be married to experience the ‘itch’ it happens due to a length of time, not necessarily a marriage certificate. Many couples report a gradual decline in the quality of their relationship between the ‘honeymoon’ months and up to the 4th year. If not addressed, tensions rise to such a level around
Losing a loved one…
Living and dying are part of our life cycle, but that doesn’t make dealing with death, or fear of death any easier. The reality is that death is the only certainty in life, so it’s good to try and get your head around it.
Dealing with Discovering Infidelity
The pain and shock of discovering a partner’s infidelity can be one of life’s most traumatic events. As such, it should come as no surprise that it often takes several years for couples to effectively repair a relationship after infidelity comes to light.
Is Your Partner ‘Gaslighting’ you?
Does your other half constantly put you down or treat you badly – then when you react, act as if YOU are the crazy one and accuse you of being ‘oversensitive’ or ‘paranoid’?
A Well Kept Secret….
One of the UK’s Leading Relationship Counsellor Sian Jones, talks about how she created a service enabling her high profile clients to resolve their relationship problems at home
With discretion being the core to her work, is it any wonder that Relationship Counsellor, Sian Jones could be declared a well kept secret?
Are you heading for divorce?
When did the person you couldn’t bear to live without, turn in to the person you can barely live with?
Reviews
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Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.
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Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.
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Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
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Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.
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Tim Gilbert
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change. Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .
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Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "
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Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"
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Elaine Brown
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"
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Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again" Request an appointment
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Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment
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Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas" Request an appointment
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Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view" Request an appointment
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Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))" Request an appointment
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Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!" Request an appointment
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Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship" Request an appointment
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Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much" Request an appointment
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Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time" Request an appointment
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Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!" Request an appointment
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Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems" Request an appointment
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Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever" Request an appointment
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Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel" Request an appointment
Reviews
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Jackie Hare My husband and I were both very nervous and unsure of what our session with Jackie would be. We were quickly reassured and had everything explained to us. Jackie is wonderful, she is the perfect mix of funny, reassuring and knowledgeable. My husband and I were in a rut, Jackie helped us to see the importance of us again. We would not hesitate to use Jackie's services again if the need arises, however, using the tools she equipped us with we both believe we won't need to. Jackie helped us talk to each other about things we would never have done so without her help. We are proud of us for going to marriage counselling but we feel very lucky to have met Jackie and used her amazing guidance.
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Jackie Hare Jackie helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Jackie to any couple going through relationship difficulties.
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Kathy Hoggart Kathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
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Kaye Barney I have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.
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Tim Gilbert
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change. Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .
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Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "
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Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"
-
Elaine Brown
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"
-
Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again" Request an appointment
-
Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you! Request an appointment
-
Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas" Request an appointment
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Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view" Request an appointment
-
Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))" Request an appointment
-
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!" Request an appointment
-
Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship" Request an appointment
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Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much" Request an appointment
-
Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time" Request an appointment
-
Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!" Request an appointment
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Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems" Request an appointment
-
Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever" Request an appointment
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Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel" Request an appointment